ONE DAY, I HOPE YOU’LL BECOME A MOM. SOMETHING TO KNOW ABOUT THAT THOUGH, IS THAT YOUR FRIENDSHIPS WILL CHANGE AND SOME MAY EVEN DIE. AFTER YOU BECOME A MOM, YOU WILL TRY TO MAINTAIN FRIENDSHIPS WITH YOUR FRIENDS THAT DON’T HAVE KIDS, BUT SOMETIMES YOU JUST CAN’T. NO FIGHTING OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT – YOU JUST LOSE TOUCH. YOU HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON ANYMORE. EVEN WHEN BEFORE YOU SEEMED TO HAVE EVERYTHING IN COMMON. NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU HAD BEEN FRIENDS BEFORE THE BABY. NO MATTER HOW CLOSE YOU WERE. YOU HAVE THE BABY AND THE FRIENDSHIP JUST KINDA DISSOLVES. IT’S SAD, BUT IT WILL HAPPEN WITH AT LEAST ONE FRIEND. POSSIBLY MORE. IT WAS JUST ONE FRIEND WITH ME – AND I’D KNOWN HER SINCE HIGH SCHOOL – BUT IT’S OK.

IT MAY BE INSTANT, IT MAY TAKE A YEAR. IT’S SAD AND IT SUCKS, BUT I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT IT HAPPENS, IT’S OK, AND IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. SOME PEOPLE JUST CAN’T UNDERSTAND THAT YOUR BABY COMES FIRST. THEY CAN’T RELATE TO DIAPER CHANGES AND BOTTLES AND PACIFIERS. IT’S OK BECAUSE THERE WILL BE SOME FRIENDS THAT CAN HANDLE IT AND THEY’RE THE BEST ONES. AND NO MATTER HOW MANY FRIENDS YOU LOSE WHEN YOU HAVE THE BABY – THAT LITTLE BUNDLE OF AWESOME MAKES UP FOR IT ALL. I COULD HAVE NO FRIENDS AT ALL, AND JUST KNOWING YOU’RE THERE AND YOU LOVE ME MAKES UP FOR IT ALL.

SOMETHING ELSE I WANTED TO BRING UP, AND IT MAY BE AWKWARD FOR YOU, AND I’M SORRY, BUT IT NEEDS TO BE SAID – I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT IF YOU’RE GAY – IF YOU REALIZE AS YOU GROW THAT YOU’RE GAY, OR IF YOU THINK YOU MAY BE GAY – IT’S OK AND I LOVE YOU AND I WANT YOU TO TELL ME B/C IT’S NOT SOMETHING YOU SHOULD GO THRU ON YOUR OWN. I HOPE THAT BY THE TIME YOU’RE MY AGE, THERE ISN’T DISCRIMINATION AGAINST GAYS, BUT THERE PROBABLY WILL BE B/C THAT’S HUMANITY – BUT THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU IF YOU ARE. AND IF YOU AREN’T GAY – PLEASE DO NOT DISCRIMINATE AGAINST GAYS. THEY ARE PEOPLE JUST LIKE YOU AND THEY DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT AND FRIENDSHIP (AND GAY GUYS CAN THE BEST FRIENDS, LOL). BUT NO MATTER WHAT – IF YOU’RE GAY OR STRAIGHT, YOU AREN’T OFF THE HOOK FOR GIVING ME GRANDBABIES ☺ IF YOU’RE GAY, YOU CAN ADOPT, LOL!!

I LOVE YOU BABY!
♥ MOMMA